Monday, April 12, 2010

Not The Post I Intended

This is not the post I'd intended to write today. Nor is it the post I started. I started one about how my ippity journal pages were going and some other things that seem so unimportant right now. You see, as I was writing and editing the photos I was going to put up, my mother called. Liz, my aunt by marriage, died last night. When Mom started with "there's no easy way to tell you this.." I knew someone had died. I just never expected it to be Liz.

Liz was only 54 years old. (I originally wrote 56, thinking should would have been 56 this year. I was wrong.) She was an avid horsewoman. She, along with her husband Tom, invited my middle daughter into her home to stay, even though they never had children of their own, and were unused to having kids in their house at all, let alone without their parents.

This photo is of Liz giving Hannah a riding lesson on Vinnie.
December 26, 2009Elizabeth Ann Morris Caulk
May 18, 1955-2010

It wasn't supposed to be Liz. And I have one big question. How am I supposed to tell Hannah?

11 comments:

Paula Laird said...

Oh hugs. Praying for you.

StampinCathy said...

I'm so sorry for your loss! I don't think there is any easy way to break the news like this to anyone. Hugs and prayers goes to you and your family.

de said...

So sorry Carole. It will be hard to break it to Hannah I know. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

Eva said...

I am so sorry for your loss.....I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Hugs...

lynn said...

oh, so sorry, prayers to you and hannah!

Rebecca said...

{{{{hugs}}}} you have a tough conversation ahead of you, just keep it simple - let her know you hadn't expected it either and that sometimes, there are no explanations for "why".

Jingle said...

I am so sorry! Just be honest with her. It's hard, but she will know you are there grieving with her.

jan farnworth said...

i know how you feel my son lost both of his grandparents. One when he was and the other when he was four. It made it hard to tell him cause we lived with grandma and she died in her house from cancer. So he sat with her as she faded in out of sleep. Even now when we go by grandmas house he says that where lived. Hubby asked you remember what happen to grandma right and he says yes she died and went to heaven. I know you don;t want to hear it but children are strong and the best you can do is tell her and then be there to help her grieve it a process but one that will make her strong. Big hugs to you.

Jessica said...

Giant Hugs... unfortunately death is part of life & the best thing to do is remember Liz & she'll always be there in your heart... will you all be able to go to her funeral? If so, sometimes they can be healing as other folks who love her will be there... (I think kids should be allowed to go to funerals if they want to go.)

Lee (LuvLee on SCS) said...

OH sweetie!!!! BIG, HUGE hugs!!!!! I have no words as I still don't know how to grieve or help anyone else.....all I can say is that I understand and care so much!!!!

Shelly Schmidt said...

Bless you- I hope you and your daughter are OK- your Aunt dies really young- I will keep you all in prayers. How sad!